Monday, October 5, 2015
I had lunch with my friend, Amanda! I treasure this time as I don't see her often enough! I think we could talk for hours. Our daughters are from the same orphanage, Huainan. Kendall loves Phoebe like a true sister and this was her first visit with Lyric. We also had the pleasure of meeting Amanda's new daughter Tilley!
After lunch Kendall spent the afternoon with her Huainan friends. They picked up another Huainan "sister", Yun Ya (Victoria). What a sweet time for all these girls!
Eden spent the day with her Nanjing "sister" Esther! Eden had such a good time! A special thanks to Kim and Amanda for taking time out for our daughters to spend the day together!
The wedding has prompted several questions today! Who will they dance with for the father daughter dance? I told them we would make it a mother daughter dance! Then they asked about the slide show of baby photos. I had to tell them that we would use the earliest photos that we had and make them work. Adoption is hard yet these girls continue to grow and mature. I'm so proud of them and their accomplishments!
The girls loved "living" at the hotel and wish we could live at the hotel all the time. I think they would grow tired of it after too long, it was fun to get away for a few days!
All the girls except Mackinley have visited with an orphanage sister or sisters this year. We know of no one that has adopted from Wuxi! This is hard at times especially when she sees her sisters meeting their China friends.
Mackinley cried on the way home from the Lifeline Reunion after watching her sisters visit with their friends. My heart breaks for her and the only thing I can do is to love her and tell her that I totally understand, which I do! I love this girl and am amazed at how far she has come since coming home two years ago.
Each new experience seems to trigger questions and growth! One step at a time! My girls are amazing and I love them dearly! I am beyond blessed by adoption and wish that others would open their hearts and homes!
My I-800 has made it out of the lock box and is on the way to Missouri to be approved! Love this progress!
Until next time . . .
Sunday, September 27, 2015
I know that he is my source and nothing is impossible for him.
Like my previous adoptions I have had several fund raisers! Unlike the past adoptions these have not been as successful as I had hoped! Again, God is doing things differently, trust him, not man!
My first fundraiser was somewhat of a flop for me, the money from the Thirty-one event and body lotions was not shared with me as promised. Things happen for a reason, I'm guessing God had something else in mind.
I seriously considered aborting this adoption due to the lack of funds. I shared this concern from the get go with my social worker and China advisor, and after my poor fund raising efforts I sent them an email saying I was going to have to stop the process due to a lack of funds. I put my first agency payment on a credit card and was determined not to run up and more new debt! At that time I learned that someone had anonymously donated a huge amount for my adoption fund! Wow, God is awesome. If this was you, thank you again! I can never truly express my gratitude! After praying I felt sure that God was telling me to move forward!
My advisor told me that she rarely asked for grants and that she would ask for one on my behalf. She also told me that she would help me find organizations that grant to singles! At this time there are no extra funds available for grants from my adoption agency and she has been much to busy to help me find a lead an organization that assists singles! Okay, I know this seems like I'm complaining, I'm not! I think it is God at work again, telling me to TRUST HIM, not man!
The girls and I began praying about the needed funds and within a few days, God laid it upon two different families hearts to give and oh my, the blessing of their gift is indescribable! Thank you Lord, for answered prayers and the love you bestowed on us and Avery!
Yes, God is working differently this time and the lesson of trusting Him has become quite clear. Look to him and trust him for his provision! In the natural, I look at the needs and I'm overwhelmed, yet when I look to God and place my trust in Him, I am at peace!
It all comes down to focus, keeping my eyes and trust in Him that can do far more than I can hope or imagine! I mistakenly placed my hope in what man said and promised, only to be disappointed time and time again! I hear you, Lord! My hope and trust is in you!
I praise God for this lesson learned! You would think after all these years I wouldn't need these reminders! Just like the children of Israel in the desert, I forgot the miracles and provision of God in the past!
Pressing forward with a renewed hope in Him that is able!
Until next time . . .
Thursday, September 24, 2015
As you know, I have adopted 4 older girls, ages 11- days of turning 14. Their past vary from the poorest of poor orphanages to living with foster families for 12 years. My two girls that had foster families love and miss them very much. I have come to understand and respect the fact that while they have grown to love me. They will never love me like they did these families that were to them their "real" family for so many years. I'm okay with that as I totally get it!
|All the girls enjoyed the chalk and drawing!|
My newest waiting daughter's history is somewhat different. It is the same in the fact that she was abandoned, lived in an orphanage, and now foster family. The age of herabandonment makes her story uniquely hers. With that knowledge I must be prepared to understand and help her through any pain and healing that may be needed.
Monday, September 7, 2015
Vikitoria in the white shorts is from Kunming! I don't remember where Faith is from, she's in the Navy tee!
Daniel was the only guy, he is Vikitoria's brother!
We all had such a good time and hope that we can arrange another get together soon!
September 2nd, we celebrated Mackinley and Eden's Gotcha Day at Mr.Chen's!
Today is Eden's 16th birthday! She is the sweetest girl and I am more than blessed to have her as part of my family. She started her celebration in Dothan, Sunday morning before we left with a gift from Nena and Papa along with ice cream cones!
We took this photo as it reminded us of the waterfall at The Garden! Still waiting, no new news on the adoption front!
I don't have to tell you who had my phone taking all the selfies!
Saturday, September 5, 2015
We really lead a very ordinary life one day at a time! I'm thankful that I get to share it with my girls and older children, (although I don't get to see them often enough). I am blessed to have been called for this journey!
Until next time . . .
Saturday, August 22, 2015
At the same time, I truly wanted to bring two older girls home, I believe and know from experience that the two are a huge comfort to one another during those early days in China and at home.
My agency said no to two, they did not believe that I could handle two more! Really? Oh well, enough of that!
During the heartbreaking process of China refusing to give the first girl a file, I was being drawn to another girl. I can remember the exact moment when my heart was quicken for her.
My precious girl has a diagnosis that concerned me and my initial thought was, "no way"! Yet, I kept coming back to look at her and her file! After the moment that I referred to above and talking with several people multiple times I knew we were to proceed.
This journey has been plagued with many lets say, "issues"! More hurdles than the past two adoptions combined! I feel that she must be a pretty special young lady if the enemy is doing all he can to hinder this process.
It has been months since she received our photo album and told that she has a family. What must she be thinking as the time continues to tick away without any word of how close or far away we are from coming after her! Has she given up hope? Does she think about what her new life will be like? Is she ready for the loss of her foster family, her homeland, and friends?
With all the Chinese holidays coming up, I know that my LOA will most likely be delayed! This is hard! I'm not worried about getting there in time as my agency will work like crazy to make it happen, as they did during my last adoption.
My heart is sad for Avery as she waits. I am sadden that I do not have the funds to take the girls with me on this trip as they would all love to return to their homeland for a visit, and their presence would give Avery someone to communicate with during those first early awkward days.
Waiting is never easy, yet it is part of the progress! I am thankful that God knows the exact moment when we will receive LOA and travel approval! I can take comfort in knowing and relying on God during this waiting period.
Praying for Avery's precious heart, may she continue to wait in peace and hope for what will be!
Until next time . . . waiting!
Friday, August 21, 2015
One child showed very little grief, I believe that it was due to where she came from. She was on the low end in the pecking order, and life was really tough for her. She told me recently that she would be dead if she had stayed in China!
While she showed little grief she had to learn to accept love and hugs and kisses! There was a time when she was hugged that she stood stiff as a solider at attention! Not now, she loves to give big ole bear hugs!
Another one of my girls kept her grief bottled up, never knowing or allowing herself to express her thoughts and feelings. After many years home she is beginning to open up! The years of self-survival are hard to over come! I love seeing her expressing herself more openly and coming to me even for a moment for reassurance in new surroundings.
My two girls that had foster families expressed their grief more openly! Tears, lots of tears! Different family events triggered their emotions! Their first year home was so hard for them as they had truly lost their "family"! My heart grieved for them!
After being here I see a different type of grief as the communication lapses with their foster families. They often feel that they have been forgotten and that their past there meant nothing to their foster families.
Now that they have had a time to grieve they are opening up their hearts to me! It is so sweet and a gift that I do not take lightly! The girls are so different, one is very quiet and reserved and the other is a precious chatterbox!
To go from being called mom to mama is a sign of love and oh so treasured!
I would encourage you to not to give up and to hang in there! This too shall pass, days will turn to weeks, and weeks months and months years! Look for the positive and focus on all the things that are right in your relationship! Keep on loving and being there, one day you will turn an expected corner and things will begin to get better, for you and your grieving child!
Grief is real and grief is hard! Expect it! Be prepared! Unconditional love and God above will see you through the hard times! Remember too that when a child is in a state of grief and anxiety they don't learn and remember as well, don't expect to much of them during this season. It's all about baby steps!
As I prepare to adopt one last time, I know that I too will face another season of loss and grief with my new daughter. I pray now that her heart will heal and that God will comfort her during the process of learning to love us!
Until next time . . . waiting for my LOA!
Saturday, August 15, 2015
Sunday, August 9, 2015
Journey was able to visit the some of her Zhongshan sisters and I enjoyed visiting with their mamas!
The Zhongshan Sisters!
Zhongshon, Huainan, Nanjing, Wuxi
Waiting on the news that we have moved (OOT) out of translation!
Until next time . . .
Thursday, July 30, 2015
Friday, July 24, 2015
We are selling tee shirts to help bring our Avery home! I have had a few people ask to order shirts. There were two shirts that didn't arrive and will have to be printed. SO….that means you have one more chance to order!
Ways to order!
#1 You can place your order via the donate button on the right side of this blog. Once your order is placed I will send you a message asking about your size and color choice.
#2 You can also send me a message and I'll send you my address and you can mail in your order.
This fundraiser will end July 1st! Once the tee shirts are delivered to me I will mail them out ASAP!
Wednesday, July 22, 2015
I've learned that it will not work from a cellphone. The donate button takes you to a paypal account. Once the donation is made I receive an email at my yahoo email address.
I have also been told that some email attempts have bounce back. The address on the blog is not right! I somehow messed it up.
If you need to email to ask a question you can use my yahoo email address.
Please feel free to leave comments or questions here on the blog or PM on Facebook!
I hope this helps!
Monday, July 20, 2015
Friday, July 17, 2015
We witnessed God's beautiful promise after a hard drive in the rain!
We are waiting on our dossier to be sent to China! In the mean time we continue to fund raise. Our latest fundraiser is a Yeti Tundra Cooler!
Each $10.00 donation receives one entry and each $25.00 donation receives three entries! We are a long way from being completely funded and could use your help as God leads you.
Until next time . . . waiting for our tee shirt order and our DTC!