Saturday, August 22, 2015

What must she be thinking?

It has been months since this adoption journey began! Last fall we knew we wanted to adopt again when a very special little girl asked us to adopt her. How can one say, no? Unfortunately, that door was closed!

At the same time, I truly wanted to bring two older girls home, I believe and know from experience that the two are a huge comfort to one another during those early days in China and at home.

My agency said no to two, they did not believe that I could handle two more! Really? Oh well, enough of that!

During the heartbreaking process of China refusing to give the first girl a file, I was being drawn to another girl. I can remember the exact moment when my heart was quicken for her.

My precious girl has a diagnosis that concerned me and my initial thought was, "no way"! Yet, I kept coming back to look at her and her file! After the moment that I referred to above and talking with several people multiple times I knew we were to proceed.


This journey has been plagued with many lets say, "issues"! More hurdles than the past two adoptions combined! I feel that she must be a pretty special young lady if the enemy is doing all he can to hinder this process.

It has been months since she received our photo album and told that she has a family. What must she be thinking as the time continues to tick away without any word of how close or far away we are from coming after her! Has she given up hope? Does she think about what her new life will be like? Is she ready for the loss of her foster family, her homeland, and friends?

With all the Chinese holidays coming up, I know that my LOA will most likely be delayed! This is hard! I'm not worried about getting there in time as my agency will work like crazy to make it happen, as they did during my last adoption.

My heart is sad for Avery as she waits. I am sadden that I do not have the funds to take the girls with me on this trip as they would all love to return to their homeland for a visit, and their presence would give Avery someone to communicate with during those first early awkward days.

Waiting is never easy, yet it is part of the progress! I am thankful that God knows the exact moment when we will receive LOA and travel approval! I can take comfort in knowing and relying on God during this waiting period.

Praying for Avery's precious heart, may she continue to wait in peace and hope for what will be!

Until next time . . . waiting!

Friday, August 21, 2015

Grief . . .

Having adopted 4 times now, I can say that I have seen grief express itself in many different ways! Listen carefully, the first year is H-A-R-D!

One child showed very little grief, I believe that it was due to where she came from. She was on the low end in the pecking order, and life was really tough for her. She told me recently that she would be dead if she had stayed in China! 

While she showed little grief she had to learn to accept love and hugs and kisses! There was a time when she was hugged that she stood stiff as a solider at attention! Not now, she loves to give big ole bear hugs!

Another one of my girls kept her grief bottled up, never knowing or allowing herself to express her thoughts and feelings. After many years home she is beginning to open up! The years of self-survival are hard to over come! I love seeing her expressing herself more openly and coming to me even for a moment for reassurance in new surroundings.

My two girls that had foster families expressed their grief more openly! Tears, lots of tears! Different family events triggered their emotions! Their first year home was so hard for them as they had truly lost their "family"! My heart grieved for them!

After being here I see a different type of grief as the communication lapses with their foster families. They often feel that they have been forgotten and that their past there meant nothing to their foster families. 

Now that they have had a time to grieve they are opening up their hearts to me! It is so sweet and a gift that I do not take lightly! The girls are so different, one is very quiet and reserved and the other is a precious chatterbox!

To go from being called mom to mama is a sign of love and oh so treasured!

I would encourage you to not to give up and to hang in there! This too shall pass, days will turn to weeks, and weeks months and months years! Look for the positive and focus on all the things that are right in your relationship! Keep on loving and being there, one day you will turn an expected corner and things will begin to get better, for you and your grieving child!

Grief is real and grief is hard! Expect it! Be prepared! Unconditional love and God above will see you through the hard times! Remember too that when a child is in a state of grief and anxiety they don't learn and remember as well,  don't expect to much of them during this season. It's all about baby steps!

As I prepare to adopt one last time, I know that I too will face another season of loss and grief with my new daughter. I pray now that her heart will heal and that God will comfort her during the process of learning to love us!

Until next time . . . waiting for my LOA!

Saturday, August 15, 2015

Yeti Cooler Winner!

We have a winner!

We had 126 entries!

Using the computerized 
Random Number Generator,
the winner is number 82!


As seen below, # 82 is . . .
Brandon Yarbrough!


Congratulations!

A huge thank you to all that donated, your donation made a difference and will most definitely help bring Avery home!

Sunday, August 9, 2015

Progress, friendships and raffle

My dossier has been moved to translation! This phase usually takes a month. I'm praying it will move through a little faster!

Journey was able to visit the some of her Zhongshan sisters and I enjoyed visiting with their mamas!


Journey and her friend Kylee


The Mom's


Kylee with Kendall and Mackinley


The Zhongshan Sisters!


All the girl's! 
Zhongshon, Huainan, Nanjing, Wuxi



Don't forget the Yeti Cooler raffle! The last day to enter is August 15th! A donation of $10.00 receives one entry and a $25.00 donation receives 3 entries!



Waiting on the news that we have moved (OOT) out  of translation!

Until next time . . .

Thursday, July 30, 2015

The latest adoption news!

My dossier is logged in, LID (log in date) is just another step in the process! Next up - translation, then OOT (out of translation), review and the LOA (letter of acceptance)! This process could be weeks or months! It is a waiting game now!

This weekend I'm having a garage sale in Dothan to help fund this adoption! I'm praying that it doesn't rain! I have several large appliances (washer/dryer/stove) for sale and hope the right buyers come along! 

I also have 100 Avery's Angels of Hope for sale! I will feature these on the blog after the garage sale! Trust me, they are beautiful! These were donated by a dear friend's mama  I cannot thank them enough for blessing me with this wonderful gift!
We are about 15 days away from the Yeti cooler drawing. I know you don't want to miss out on this fabulous cooler. Remember each $10.00 donation receives one entry while each $25.00 donation receives three entries! Wouldn't it be great to have this cooler in time for football season and/or hunting? It is a chance to win while supporting the adoption of a precious teen girl!

We have been busy getting things ready for our new school year. I'm proud of the girls and how hard they work. Our public school system did not meet their individual needs hence we elected to homeschool. This has enabled the girls to learn where they were rather than an established "grade" level! For those wondering, we use Bob Jones distance learning DVD's! Each day the girls have a video lesson for each subject! They love the teachers. The girls have their own DVD players with headphones so that they can all work at the table without being disturbed by each other's videos. 

We have slowly been adding to Avery's wardrobe! A winter coat and PJ's are the start! There's so much to get when you are buying for a child that comes with nothing or very little! It's just like providing for a newborn except she's nearly 14!

I have been blessed beyond measure with the addition of the girls! Truly, only those that have walked this road can totally comprehend the blessings I refer to! I would encourage anyone that has a heart for the orphan to not be afraid to step out in faith and adopt. God will lead you to just the right child for your family! Trust him!

Until next time . . . waiting!

Friday, July 24, 2015

Last chance to order tee shirts!


Last call!

We are selling tee shirts to help bring our Avery home! I have had a few people ask to order shirts. There were two shirts that didn't arrive and will have to be printed. SO….that means you have one more chance to order!

Ways to order! 
#1 You can place your order via the donate button on the right side of this blog. Once your order is placed I will send you a message asking about your size and color choice.

#2 You can also send me a message and I'll send you my address and you can mail in your order.

This fundraiser will end July 1st! Once the tee shirts are delivered to me I will mail them out ASAP!





Short Sleeves
Small - XL $20.00
XXL $21.00
XXXL $22.00

Colors: Ant. Heliconia, Ant.Saphire, Cherry Red, Charcoal, Dark chocolate, Heather Irish Green, Heather Navy, Heather Purple, Light Blue, White

Long Sleeves
Small - XL $25.00
XXL $26.00
XXXL $27.00

Colors: Black, Cherry Red, Charcoal, Dark Chocolate,
Navy, White

YOUTH SHORT SLEEVE
Youth Small - XL $20.00
Colors: Black, Heliconia, Cherry Red, Dark Chocolate, Lite Blue, Purple, Navy, Charcoal, White

YOUTH LONG SLEEVE
Youth Small - XL $25.00

Colors: Black, Charcoal, Red, Lite Pink, Lite Blue, Purple, Navy, White

I will close out this order on Tuesday, July 28th!

Wednesday, July 22, 2015

Answers to some recent questions!

It has been brought to my attention that some of you have tried to donate via my donate button.

I've learned that it will not work from a cellphone. The donate button takes you to a paypal account. Once the donation is made I receive an email at my yahoo email address.

I have also been told that some email attempts have bounce back. The address on the blog is not right! I somehow messed it up. 

If you need to email to ask a question you can use my yahoo email address.

vickysimpson52@yahoo.com

Please feel free to leave comments or questions here on the blog or PM on Facebook!

I hope this helps!

Thanks!

Monday, July 20, 2015

BE STILL!

Be still and know that I am God
Psalm 46:10

My dossier is on the way to China and now I wait! There is nothing to do at this point! After months of paper chasing, appointments, and home visits it is time to BE STILL!

God even reminds us in his word to BE STILL! How easy it is to forget this command, especially in today's society.

Now, is the time to BE STILL and rest in God's love, timing, and provision! As I wait I will worship, honor, love, and trust Him. 

The wait becomes one of peace while resting in the arms of my Lord and Savior, Jesus! Yes, while I wait, I choose to BE STILL!

Friday, July 17, 2015

Good News . . .

It is official!









Dossier

















TO






















CHINA



Now the wait begins for LID (Log In Date)!

What we have been up too . . .


It has been a while since I last blogged and I'm way behind on my photos.


 Kayte is growing up way to fast! She knows what she wants and isn't afraid to go after it! Strong qualities that will serve her well in the future!


Kendall never misses an opportunity to have her photo taken, especially with Kayte!



Jackson is 4, where did the time go?
He is such a sweetheart! Jackson has such a kind loving personality and such a joy to be around!

In June the girls had a long weekend at the beach with Aunt Shery! Shery is a wonderful hostess and they really looked forward to their time with her!


The girls love the park near my sister's home!


Time for a little putt-putt!


Silly photos!


Mackinley, the "fish whispher"!
She caught this fish with her hand!
No fish were harmed in this outing, 
it was released back into the ocean!


My sweet sister with Eden!



A visit to the beach isn't complete without ice cream!


Shery took the girls by to see where she teaches Middle School, their mascot, the Dolphin!




The girls had a wonderful time visiting Shery at her home in Gulf Shores!


International Children's Day was celebrated!


Chinese Dumplings and Bubble Milk Tea
 from Mr. Chen's


Chinese Cookies, Candies, and Frozen treats!


Each also received a new summer tee shirt in their favorite color!


This was so much fun, the girls had no clue that I was going to surprise them with these treats on Children's Day!

On a warm summer afternoon


there is nothing better than


visiting with friends!


Vikortia is from Kunming, China!


For all those that worry about the girls not getting enough social skills, we are visiting Viktoria again next week!


We reached another mile marker on our adoption journey!


We witnessed God's beautiful promise after a hard drive in the rain!



We had a visit from a dear friend and her children!


The 4th was celebrated with family in Dothan


Family and Friends


Art work


Selfies


More selfies!


Games


and more games!


The evening ended with fireworks, I was working and missed the show and the photos!


The girls worked on this puzzle and completed it in two weekends while at Nena and Papa's!


Another first, staining the wall!


Bobie and Don have been helping the Reams with their home construction! Mr. Ream started the project before he was diagnosed with ALS!


The girls volunteered to help along with Aunt Shery!

 They are great workers and join in anytime there is a need! I'm proud of their heart to serve!


We are waiting on our dossier to be sent to China! In the mean time we continue to fund raise. Our latest fundraiser is a Yeti Tundra Cooler!

Each $10.00 donation receives one entry and each $25.00 donation receives three entries! We are a long way from being completely funded and could use your help as God leads you.

Until next time . . . waiting for our tee shirt order and our DTC!